10 Things to Always Have With You on a First Dateby Chiara Atik on March 12, 2020
Super dry, chapped lips are the worst. Not even just for kissing, but like, to look at.
2. Phone Charger.
Someday they will invent a phone battery that lasts forever, but until that day, you must live with the possibility that you might be out for longer than you think and then your phone might die leaving you with no way to text your friends, call a cab, or get directions home.
3. A tissue or a handkerchief.
It’s easy for girls to just have a packet of tissues in their purses, a bit harder for guys to have some on hand. But there’s something gallant about a guy with a handkerchief, which he can use to like, wipe off a dirty subway seat or something.
Because of course the one time you actually have a headache on a date and aren’t just faking it, you’ll want to have some on hand and finish your date in comfort.
Oh, the quiet horror of realizing that maybe you smell slightly, slightly, but is it even noticeable, yeah, it’s probably noticeable if you are noticing it, on the other hand you are YOU so obviously you are closest, maybe your date is too far away, but you’re not planning on spending the entire evening at a 3 foot distance, so maybe you should go to the bathroom and take some paper towels or something, etc. etc. SAVE YOURSELF THE ANGST.
Figuring out who pays on a date can sometimes be complicated, but always expect to pay for your own dinner/movie/cab, whatever, and have it in cash because that’s the easiest. (Once I had to borrow money from a date to pay for my valet because I didn’t have cash and it was the most embarrassing thing ever.)
Well, you knew that, right?
8. Any Medicine You Take.
Sometimes first dates lead to sleepovers, and if that sleepover results in you sharing close quarters with a cat, you’ll really wish you had your allergy medicine with you.
9. A Condom.
Even if you think it won’t get to that point, have one just in case. You’ll use it next time. Or, it will become a sad symbol of your sexless life, but still, it’s good to keep one on hand.
10. A Deck of Cards…
….or any other random conversation piece that is fun or unusual or quirky or weird. A deck of cards is a good example: 9/10 times you won’t take them out, but every once in a while, when the situation is exactly right, when you’re just drunk enough, or feeling goofy enough, when the date is going well, when you’re stalling over your drinks but the conversation has died down just a bit, the best, most surprising thing you can do is suddenly say, “Want to play Go Fish?” and bust out a deck of cards. You have to get the timing right, but when you do, it totally ups the level of your date. Because now it’s the two of you, laughingly playing “Go Fish” in the middle of a bar, together.
A “secret weapon” of sorts, that makes you endearing and memorable, whatever that weapon may be for you, ensures that the first date won’t be the last.