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For this, my inaugural Dress To Impress post, I’m going to share a story about a very HowHookup-esque date and the unsexy outfit I wore that, as luck would have, didn’t turn out to be unsexy at all. In fact I use this anecdote frequently to illustrate my belief that we are never going to know exactly what the opposite sex wants to look at.

In May 2020 a man who follows my Tumblr emailed me, offering skateboarding lessons. (I had recently posted a desire to learn.) We set a date for the following Thursday evening and agreed to meet by Chelsea Piers.

A few sartorial red flags: this was a casual date that would likely involve skinned knees and elbows, we had met on the Internet (the horror!), and I was coming straight from work, pencil skirt crammed in a duffel bag. I needed to look cute but somehow professional and frame the entire outfit around flat-soled sneakers. Running late and nervous as hell, I settled on the following mishmash: olive drab cargo shorts, a black cardigan, Converse, and no makeup save for a haphazard streak of red lipstick.

Now a “normal” first date might require cleavage and a blow-out or perhaps a tie (for him), but there is no such thing as normal anymore, and sometimes – especially when skate parks and beer are involved – it just makes sense to dress like, well, in my case a tween on summer vacation. No, I didn’t look like a fashion plate, but neither did he, and the goal was to do something kind of crazy, at which we succeeded.

We dated for exactly one year.

A date’s success isn’t dependent on fashion, but when you adequately convey a sense of style and comfort, you put the other person at ease. This is why I never advocate five-inch heels or tuxedos until you’ve had the relationship talk. Why suffer…yet?

Cary Randolph Fuller writes for fashion sites including Selectism, Guest of a Guest, and Nonsociety. Between assignments she searches far and wide for the Endless Summer – tweeting, skateboarding, and baking cobbler. She lives in Saint Louis, Missouri.


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