Dating Pet Peeve: A Poorly Planned Dateby Chiara Atik on June 7, 2020
There's no doubt about it, spontaneity will play an important part role in your love life -- but when it comes time to plan a date, it's best to play it safe.
When you meet someone for the first time, there are a lot of variables: will you get along with your date? Will there be a spark? Will there be a kiss?
With so many questions swimming around in your head, it helps to have some pre-determined factors, like where you will be and what you will be doing. (For some people, it's important to know these things in advance in order to plan an outfit, or just to know what to expect in terms of ambience, exit strategy, etc.)
Glamour Blogger Rosemary Brennan described a date her friend went on last weekend. The friend was supposed to go to dinner with a guy, but he called an hour before and said he hadn't made any reservations and didn't know where they should go.
"Frustrated, my friend suggested the most expensive restaurant she knew with plans to order the most expensive thing on the menu. However, once the date started, the two hit it off. And she decided to go with a reasonably priced dish instead of the $30 steak she planned on ordering."
Once, I had plans for a first date with a guy, who called me unexpectedly and said he was "in the neighborhood." A bit unprepared, I asked him where he wanted to go. "It's your neighborhood, I'll leave that up to you!" He said. In the end, I took him to the dive bar downstairs from my apartment, but it took a lot of the magic of the date out of it for me.
It doesn't matter who plans the date, as long as there is an actual plan in place at least 5 hours before the date is scheduled to begin. Nothing kills the pre-date mood more than having to go through endless back-and-forths about plans, or worse, scrambling for a reservation somewhere.
Have a specific place, or goal in mind, and then you can both concentrate on what really matters: figuring out if you like each other.
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