Dating Advice From Our Founding Fathers: Thomas Jeffersonby Chiara Atik on June 28, 2020
In honor of Fourth of July, let’s take a look back at what our Founding Fathers, in their infinite wisdom, had to say about love and relationships. Up today: dating declarations from Thomas Jefferson.
T.J. had a busy life: he wrote the Declaration of Independence, served as the third president of the United States, and fathered six children with slave Sally Hemings, who was his slave (and, weirdly, his wife’s half sister?)
On the subject of dating, Jefferson was uncharacteristically not verbose, but we were still able to glean some bits of advice from his letters.
On having spelling mistakes in your Dating Profile or emails to someone:
“Take care that you never spell a word wrong. Always before you write a word, consider how it is spelt, and, if you do not remember it, turn to a dictionary. It produces great praise to a lady to spell well…”
On dealbreakers for men:
“Nothing is so disgusting to men as a want of cleanliness and delicacy in women.”
On how to look “the morning after”:
“The moment you rise from bed, your first work will be to dress yourself in such style, as that you may be seen by any gentleman without his being able to discover a pin amiss, or any other circumstance of neatness wanting…”
On priorities, once you’re in a relationship:
“The happiness of your life now depends on the continuing to please a single person. To this all other objects must be secondary.”