Monday Morning Sex Talk: On Birds, Bees, And Sugar In Your Bowlby Chiara Atik on July 11, 2020
In an interesting NYT op-ed published yesterday, Erica Jong laments what she perceives as the younger generation’s lack of sex drive. She concludes the article with a lovely and impassioned declaration of the importance of sex.
Whether or not you agree with the diagnosis of our generation’s lack of libido, or think our sexual appetites are perfectly healthy, thank you very much, Jong does an admirable job of articulating the need for physical intimacy.
“Different though we are, men and women were designed to be allies, to fill out each other’s limitations, to raise children together and give them different models of adulthood. We have often botched attempts to do this, but there is valor in trying to get it right, to heal the world and the rift between the sexes, to pursue the healing of home and by extension the healing of the earth.
Physical pleasure binds two people together and lets them endure the inevitable pains and losses of being human. When sex becomes boring, something deeper is usually the problem — resentment or envy or lack of honesty. So I worry about the sudden craze for Lysistrata’s solution. Why reject honey for vinegar? Don’t we all deserve sugar in our bowls?”
It can be common for the beleaguered singleton to want to give up — to convince himself that he can lead a happy and fulfilled life based purely on career and friends and experiences. Who needs love when you have a career? Who needs companionship when you have Tivo? Who needs sex when you have the internet?
But don’t let the frustrations and complications that come with sex and relationships deter you: you’re human. You deserve a little sugar in your bowl.
After all, birds do it.
Bees do it.
Even overeducated fleas do it.
Let’s do it, let’s…
[New York Times]