How to Date a Bartenderby Scott Alden on July 13, 2020
Any experienced dater knows that each occupation, lifestyle or subculture that one identifies with comes with its own particularities. They might be endearing. They might be annoying. But they’re not going away and no matter who you choose to date, they’re going to be a person who does something. Knowing, as they say, is half the battle, and you’re better off going in armed.
This week, we asked “Gary,” a bartender in Williamsburg (who wished to remain anonymous) about the pros and cons of dating a tapster.
Bartenders tend to work late, but not every night of the week. Having a few nights off from the person you’re dating provides you with a built in excuse to do your own thing a couple of times a week.
“It’s worked out for me in the past,” said Gary, “that the hours have kept the relationship from getting stale and the time that we did spend together was better.”
Of course, if you can’t stand being away from your main squeeze, you can always go hang with them at the bar and put away a few…
“It depends on the night, but if you’re with me, you’re probably not paying for drinks, yeah.”
It’s not a private jet or a house in Monaco, but as far as dating perks go, it’s nothing to sneeze at.
They’ve seen it all
“Seeing people at their worst is part of the job,” admitted Gary, “so you’re not really going to surprise me.”
That’s not to say that you should puke on your shoes willy nilly, but with a bartender you don’t have to be ashamed to show your face the next morning.
“On nights I work, I usually get in at around 5 in the morning.”
And that’s only if he doesn’t hang out after closing and throw a few back. If you work a 9-5, and you value your sleep, you’re pretty much not seeing your barman on work nights.
They get hit on. A lot.
“You learn to deal with it. And you’re usually pretty busy, but yeah, people get a few in them and ‘I’m seeing someone’ doesn’t always mean much to them.”
The bartender is always the coolest person in the room. They’re also the person who’s feeding the drinks to all the single ladies in the room. It’s a recipe for flirtation. If you’re the jealous type, this will drive you crazy. Until 5 in the morning. Every night.
They’ve seen it all
It might be a little tougher to impress a barkeep, but then again, maybe not.
“We get all kinds of women in here. All kinds of stories. I tend to go for real connection, though. I don’t care who you know or what you do if there’s chemistry.”
You’ll have to manage your jealousy and you’ll have to adapt to their schedule. But if you’re a person who values your “you time,” and appreciates a nice (free) pour, dating a bartender could be the cure for what ails you.