Enough Is Enough, Patti Stanger: Lay Off The Curly-Haired Girlsby Chiara Atik on August 15, 2020
So, this is nothing new, but Patti Stanger yet again explained her anti-curl stance to the press, this time talking to Today.com:
"Silky Asian hair has been in for the last 100 years, probably for the history of style. It signifies opulent wealth and sophistication. Men who are wealthy like straight hair, they like to run their hands through it, not get tangled in there like it does with curls. And honestly, very few women have perfect curls. Unless you’re Andie McDowell, the curls just look messy."
Okay, Ms. Stanger, a few words:
On your show, you're frequently imploring your millionaires to broaden their horizons and let go of dealbreakers. You tell the man who always dates younger women to try someone older: you tell the woman to give the bald, paunchy guy a chance. You become frustrated when people stubbornly refuse to broaden their dating horizons.
Yet you're constantly perpetuating the silliest and most superficial dealbreaker of all.
Some people are bald and some people have brown hair and some people have curly hair: these are all external factors which I'm sure an experienced matchmaker such as yourself realizes has very little to do with compatibility.
Emotional compatibility, political compatibility, religious compatibility, intellectual compatibility: even the all-important sexual compatibility none of these factors are even remotely determined by the texture of a woman's hair.
And what's worse, this whole idea that you can somehow "trick" a man who wouldn't otherwise be interested or attracted by simply straightening your hair is demeaning to both men and women. Why should women cater to a completely superficial preference? Why shouldn't men be expected to have to make compromises of their own, even if it means dating an intelligent, funny, successful, mature, and smokin' hot woman -- who has curly hair?
One more thing. "Straight hair has been in for the past 100 years, probably for the history of style"?
Nope, not true.
And every single one of these women got a man just fine.
Don't worry about us curly-haired girls. We don't need a straightening iron to find a date.
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