15 Perks to Being Single and Datingby Chiara Atik on December 31, 2020
Of course, we all want to find that special someone someday…but here are 15 reasons to be happy that someday is not today.
1. The Opportunity To Check Out All Those “What-Ifs”
A random person you meet at a party, an acquaintance you’ve had a crush on forever, maybe even a co-worker: when you’re single, you can pursue these “what-ifs” and see where they lead. More often than not, these little sparks of romance turn out to be nothing, but at least when you’re single, the not knowing won’t drive you crazy.
2. Not Shaving.
Your legs, your beard, or any other part of your body. Not shaving, and sparing those extra 15 minutes in the morning just because you don’t feel like it, is the luxury of the single person.
3. Wild Nights! Wild Nights!
It’s pretty nice to be able to go out, and stay out as long as you want, without having to worry about whether your significant other is tired, or their feet hurt, or you said you’d call, or they have an early start in the morning, or you’re “so old!”, said in a faux-complaining voice and regretful smiles as you head out the door.
And if, at midnight, a friend calls and invites you to come out, you can just go.
And if, at two am, you meet someone you like, you can just kiss them, or go home with them, or just get their number.
And if, at four am, you feel like getting a slice of pizza, or a whole pizza, you can, no problem. Who’s going to care?
4. Quiet Weekends! Quiet Weekends!
Conversely, if you want to spend an entire weekend ensconced in your room, and watch Seasons 1-4 of the West Wing, and order delivery, and sleep all afternoon, and wear your rattiest sweatpants, and stalk people on facebook cause you’re just in that kind of mood, you can. You can ignore all phone calls and basically disappear from the world, without feeling too neglectful or guilty.
5. Sleeping Diagonally On The Bed
Can we just like, let go of the illusion that sharing a bed with someone is actually comfortable? It’s fine. But having an entire bed to yourself is great.
6. Not Having To Hang Out With Anyone Else’s Friends
You have your own friends, and it’s hard enough to find time to hang out with them. Sort of nice not to have to spend a Friday night hanging out with someone else’s friends, no?
7. Guiltless Flirting
Flirting is one of life’s simplest pleasures, and easiest confidence boosters. Maintain eye contact just a beat longer than normal, engage in a little repartee, touch someone’s arm, send a few playful texts that may or may not lead anywhere. Puts an extra spring in your step, doesn’t it?
8. Better Brunch Stories
Your crazy, roller coaster dating stories make you the most popular person at brunch. Your dating and hook-up stories may not end in “happily ever after,” but they’re always entertaining.
9. Big Decisions Are Yours And Yours Alone To Make
If something happens in your life — a job opportunity, a lifestyle change, a sudden trip, a need for something new — you don’t have to consult anyone else. You don’t have to consider anyone else. Your decisions affect you and you alone — so you never have to compromise or turn down an opportunity for someone else.
10. The Remote Control Is Yours And Yours Alone
And you’re going to watch that “Toddlers And Tiaras” marathon in its entirety.
11. Eat Whatever, Whenever You Want
Something about being in a relationship seems to put a lot of pressure on meals: whereas a single person can just pour themselves a bowl of cereal for dinner, a couple will more often than not feel the need to “go get food” or put together an entire meal. You can enjoy eating without feeling the pressure of making a meal a big production.
12. You Can Have Sex With Someone Else If You Want To
People in relationships can’t.
People always say that one of the pleasures of being in a relationship is finding someone with whom you can always be yourself, and do anything in front of. But, just for the moment, enjoy the fact that you don’t ever have to see or hear anyone clipping their toe nails, and vice versa.
Couples can be spontaneous — together. Single people can decide on last minute trips, afterwork plans, or impromptu weekend activities without checking with anyone.
15. First Dates
First dates are scary, and they don’t always turn out well, but they’re always, always laced with possibility. Every first date you go on could be your last for a while, really, so enjoy the excitement, the butterflies, the hope, and the unknown. It’s something you’ll miss once you’re happily settled.
This post was originally published in August 2020.