Are you two just hooking up, or is there something more going on? In can be infuriatingly difficult to tell sometimes! Below are 7 signs that it’s definitely just a hookup. (And here are 7 ways to avoid “the hookup zone“, if you want to!)



It Only Happens While Drunk

Maybe you hang out sober, but you certainly don’t hook up unless some sort of alcohol is involved.


You Never Plan in Advance

You’ll randomly see each other at a party, or maybe text earlier in the day about plans that night.


You Only Do Pre-Hookup Things

A drink? Sure. A picnic in the park? Not gonna happen with a hookup.


You Don’t Call Each Other

You only text or email.


You Rarely Eat Breakfast Together

Hook-ups will get dressed in the morning, kiss one another on the cheek, and head out — MAYBE throw back a cup of coffee. If it’s more than a hookup, one of you will usually suggest breakfast


You Don’t Go to Parties Together

Sure, you’ve been known to surreptitiously leave parties together, but you certainly don’t arrive as a couple. You never make plans to grab a bite or a drink beforehand: that’s date stuff.


You Don’t Text In Between

After hooking up with a date or someone who is interested in you, romantically, you can expect to get a follow-up email or text from them within within the first day or so after hooking up. With a hookup, you won’t hear anything until the next time you guys, well, hook up.