Shocking headline today from Men’s Fitness: apparently, it’s men and not women who need to kiss and cuddle in order to be happy in a physical relationship, according to a new survey from the Kinsey Institute.

Now, it’s important to note, we’re not talking about roving bachelors in their 20s: those guys really are primarily interested in sex, with cuddling as a nice, but not mandatory, post-coital activity, akin to watching an episode of Breaking Bad or ordering a pizza.

But for older men in long-term relationships, cuddling starts to eclipse sex in terms of what makes a man happy in his relationship, while sex takes on an increasingly important role for women as they age.

Check out the complete breakdown on Men’s Fitness.